So, I was perusing and thinking of some things this morning and I noticed a bit of a dichotomy in my life that I had missed before. Recently, the FC posted a status update of "I am currently confused why some people continue to support and promote others who wouldn't do the same for them" ... I didn't think too much into it at the time, until I did just a little reviewing of my own life and perspective. Maybe this is directed towards me, maybe it isn't ... but it is something I am guilty of. I think there is a revelation that is encompassed in this post ... can we find the nugget involved within?
For those of you who don't know (I have 1 follower, and I'm guessing 1 reader), there are a number of "friends" in my life who have also chosen to be friends with my ex-wife (not uncommon, not a big deal). What is a big deal, however, is the fact that some of these people seem to be friends with me in appearances only. A bit of a "Oh yes, Chad, I am still your friend. I just don't want to upset the apple cart at home ..." (I know what you're thinking - 'oh yeah, because we all sell apples here in the country')
Well, fuck it, upset the apple cart ... something I have been learning since upsetting my own apple cart (I am sure you all remember that just over a year ago), the truth doesn't have to hurt nor does it have to be brutal or painful. But don't upset the apple cart just to piss someone off or to be an arsehole. Sometimes you have to make a change to avoid losing who you are - something that happened to me.
But back to that whole truth and apples and friends thing ... truth can be a matter of perspective, however there are some unalienable truths in the world (no, I am not going to list them here). One of those "perspective truths" is the matter of promotion and support ... I have a number of friends whom I still show support for in the DSM music community. But the real question is how many of those friends show support in return? No, I am not a musician or anyone of noticeable importance in the community. (I am happy to work 'behind the scenes' - see an election in the past year) The answer, so far, has been very few, if any, of those people have shown real support. Maybe they don't know how to deal with 'being in the middle', maybe they don't want to "let go" of a "good friend" or maybe they are afraid to upset said apple cart.
I can't and won't speak for anyone else ... what I will tell you, however, is that I need to do some of my own examination. Change is not something to be afraid of ... embrace change because it might just bring something better to your life.
and just remember - "Your dad sells apples, Andy ..."
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